Spontaneity Can Be Your Friend

Spontaneity can be your friend as well as the consistency I recently spoke about.

How can you use spontaneity?

First, listen to your gut.

“What gets in the way of spontaneity is your rational, overly cautious and often anxious brain: the think-twice, should-you-or-shouldn’t-you, what-will-others-think modes of dealing with the world. We manage to keep a lot of this mental chatter down by simply falling back on set routines and auto-pilot behavior.

Spontaneity resides not in this heady stuff, but in our gut. The wants and not-wants, the like and not like. You want to become more aware of these feelings, however quiet they may be, in order to learn to tune into them, increase their power, rely on them as a source of information about you and your needs. You can start by simply asking how you feel about something and not dismissing it. Better yet, taking action on it before it fades away.”

In other words, call a friend on a whim. Take a detour through the park on a sunny afternoon. Spot a surprise gift for your partner or loved one and purchase it. As well as buy yourself that something that’s calling your name. Are these a few things that may bring you joy? Do more of what is your favorite thing.

The joy of spontaneity is among the simplest, but most valuable of pleasures.

And in our stressed-out, over-scheduled, over-committed lives, it’s easy to feel wistful about how elusive those simple pleasures can be.

Also, learn to tune in throughout your day to yourself. Become aware if you are driving your usual way, it may not be what you want to do at that moment. Drive a different way. Who knows, listening to that intuition, just may save you from an accident or a traffic jam.

For instance, do you remember my article about segment intending? It’s a useful tool to begin doing throughout your day. It helps you to tune in and become aware of what it is you want to happen and how you’re feeling at any given moment.

Here is a link to read my article about it:

https://www.conniehertz.com/what-is-segment-intending-how-can-it-help-you/

Being spontaneous, may help you to become more light-hearted as you listen to your gut.

Yes, being consistent as I recently wrote about, can be a valuable virtue to live within. So can spontaneity. We need balance, don’t you agree?

Here are 5 things that will happen as you begin to trust your intuition and become more spontaneous:

You stay fresh. Boredom usually isn’t present.
More flexible. Going with the flow comes easier.
Creativity comes more often. Since you’re listening to your gut, it’s able to be present.
Less stressful. Better able to allow things to happen by “shaking if off”, when things don’t go the way you expected.
Happier. Spontaneous people make the best of every situation they face, and take full advantage of everything life has to offer.

“Being spontaneous is an indicator of emotional well-being.

A spontaneous person is free of maintaining an image, of pretending to be someone that they are not, and also has no problem when it comes to recognizing their failures and weaknesses.

Lastly, spontaneity is also a great virtue that helps human relationships. When there are no hidden intentions, no indirect messages, everything is always easier. Because those who are spontaneous allow themselves to flow in any circumstance.”

Here’s to all of us being more spontaneous!~

Connie

PS. Here is the website I got some of my information:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201710/how-be-more-spontaneous