Do You Have Regrets In Your Life?

Do you have regrets in your life? If so, how do you release them?

“Regrets of inaction are stronger and persist longer than regrets of action.
Americans’ six biggest regrets involve education, career, romance, parenting, self-improvement, and leisure.
Regret motivates us to correct our behavior.

Have you ever done something, said something, or not done something that you regret? You’re not alone.

Everyone has regrets about things in life. The question is, what can we do about it? How do we live a life with fewer regrets and how do we deal with the regrets we already have?

Regret is a self-focused negative emotion about something that has happened or been done by us.

We feel bad because we did or didn’t do something we believe we should or shouldn’t have done.

Given regret involves acknowledging our role in our present circumstances, it also often includes self-blame.

What Is the Purpose of Having Regrets?

Regret motivates us to correct our behavior (so that we don’t have to feel this negative emotion anymore). But, it seems that we may be more willing to correct our regrettable actions than our regrettable inactions.

How to Deal With Regret

Here are a few tips to reduce regret in life:

Practice acceptance. Accepting negative emotions like regret may help decrease these negative emotions.
Move past regrets to future action. Consider taking some time to make a list of both your actions and inactions. For each one, note down anything you’ve done to correct your behavior and reduce the likelihood of future regrets like this emerging.
Ask yourself, “Will I regret it?” Before deciding to do something or not to do something, see if you can figure out which one decision is more likely to result in regret. Based on the research, it seems that not doing something is usually the more regrettable action. So say “Yes!” to life as often as you can.”

Release Your Current Regrets:

Accept you aren’t able to change the past.
Know you can move forward by not creating new regrets. Do this by paying attention to yourself and your feelings, before taking an action.
Practice being kind with yourself and others each day.
Release blame for yourself and others.
Slow down and begin using “Segment Intending” throughout your day. You can read more about this in my past article:https://www.conniehertz.com/what-is-segment-intending-how-can-it-help-you/
Think things through before you speak.
Become “self-aware”.
Run a decision by a trusted person in your life before taking action.
Finally, know you aren’t perfect. You are human and you make mistakes.

Self-forgiveness is key when releasing regrets.

What other thoughts do you have about this?

Send me a message. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

With love and forgiveness in your heart is my wish for all of us.

Connie

PS. Here is the website I took some of the information above from:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-for-happiness/202112/how-to-deal-with-regret