Life’s irritations, how often are you aware you are feeling them?
Did you answer almost daily? Yeah me too.
As I sit down to write this blog each week, I tune in to get a topic that is something I need to hear, and I’m guessing lots of you need to hear about.
I just got back from doing some Friday afternoon grocery shopping. Actually I love going to the grocery. I have a few stores I go to and now that I’m settled in my new home and location, I’m finally familiar with where most things are located in each of the stores I go to.
That helps me not to have irritations, knowing where things are. Going to any new store can cause irritations if you let it. Or for that matter, doing anything new can be frustrating or cause impatience.
At least for me. A change in the way you or I look at or think about doing something new will help to shift that feeling of frustration or fear, into excitement and joy. It’s a process.
Do you relate?
As I was driving home, that’s when the irritation set in. I live about 5 minutes from the grocery I went to today. I sat at one light for exactly 12 minutes before it turned green. 12 minutes.
So, what can you or I do when we notice those feelings of impatience, irritation or frustration? Well first it’s like anything else, it’s what you’re saying inside of you that is causing these feelings. So awareness is the first step to move through them more quickly.
Taking deep breaths and humor can also work for me, as I notice what I’m feeling. Taking it in stride, whatever it is. Sometimes easier said than done!
Also as I was almost home, a young woman didn’t wait her turn at a 4 way stop. She went immediately after the car in front of her, instead of waiting for me to take my turn.
I threw my hands up in the air and said out loud, “really?”. I could see her face as she passed by me. She was clearly stressed and not really paying attention to what she was doing. She waved at me her apology.
That got me to thinking about many of these kinds of things in life, especially things going out on the roads. People are caught up in their own stuff, and I really don’t think they mean to drive like a jerk. I think they are living on auto-pilot and they’re not slowing down long enough to pay attention to much of anything.
I use an Emotional scale in everything I teach. It lists 22 levels of emotions, some numbers having 3 or 4 emotions that are at an equal level of vibration they create.
Listed under number 1 , the highest emotional vibrations we can have, are love, joy, freedom and appreciation. The very lowest emotional vibrations listed under number 22 are depression, despair, fear, grief and powerlessness.
Under number 10 is frustration, impatience and irritation.
This could be a whole workshop, so I won’t go into this much more in this article!
As I’ve talked about before many times, when I’m noticing I’m in any of the lower emotional vibrations, finding something around me, that I appreciate, seems to shift me to a higher vibration. I’ve called this in other blogs, going on a Rampage of Appreciation.
Give it a try. It really can help. When you take time each day to do something you really enjoy, even something small, it can help so that you may not go into some of these lower vibrational emotions. Taking a couple deep cleansing breaths definitely helps.
My awareness that the longer I stay within these emotions that don’t feel so good, I’m attracting more of the same to me, helps me to shift as quickly as I can.
Shift to a thought of something you love and are looking forward to.
Like for me, one thing is my upcoming Kauai Spiritual Retreat I keep talking about. There’s still some room left if you want to check it out and join us: www.conniehertz.com/retreat
Leave some examples in the comments below, of what has worked for you to shift out of irritation, frustration or impatience.
With appreciation,
Connie
cari says
When someone is rude when driving I sometimes think that an individuals day must be a difficult one and hope that their day gets better and it makes my frustration a little less
For myself I find if i think of something I’m grateful for after deep breathing it helps the frustration to go done
conniehertz says
Thanks for your comments Cari! I’m glad to hear you use your deep breathing and you think of something you’re grateful for the help your frustrations go away! It really works doesn’t it? Thanks again!~