How do you deal with change?
It’s been something I haven’t liked too much for a good part of my life.
Therefore, I fought against change over the years.
As my former marriage fell apart in 2001, and my life felt too much to bare, change hurt deeply.
Nothing seemed familiar to me.
Keeping up with my regular routines, helped.
I eventually became used to my new life and change didn’t bother me much.
Joining the dance of change and moving with it, is what I started to do, as the saying above states.
Similar to the beginning and into this pandemic, I have resisted change.
For instance, the lack of freedom to go anywhere I want to, at any time, has been a big change.
Here is one definition of change:
“An alteration in the social order of a society”.
Truly, this is what this pandemic and now the deep unrest in our country, has been.
Due to these changes, I’ve felt restricted when I wanted to fly and be with my mom during her last surgery.
I haven’t liked the way it feels to wear a mask into stores either.
On the other hand, I’ve begun to look at this differently.
The other day, while in the grocery, I asked one of the ladies stocking the shelves how she handles wearing a mask throughout the day.
She said, “It’s hot and I find myself sweating most of the day now”.
This answer helped me to think about her and the many others out on the front lines for us, wearing their masks for several hours, each day.
In contrast, I’m only wearing my mask for a short time each week.
This helped me to handle it much better.
It reminded me of the Universal Law of Relativity.
This Law states that everything is relative.
Everything is made real to something else.
Hence, my dislike of wearing a mask in comparison to the lady at the store wearing it all day.
Things have meaning because we give them meaning.
As a result of thinking about this important Universal Law, my resistance to change is much less.
How do you handle change?
There are many people who love it.
When I wrote about this topic a few years ago, some emails I received back, spoke about really enjoying it.
I love the saying above:
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.”
Alan W. Watts
However, I know many people who don’t like it at all.
Why do you think that is?
Here’s a quote from a website with many quotes on this topic:
“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.
John F. Kennedy
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What I’ve found is, practice makes new behaviors automatic and a natural part of who we are.
Finally, change will become easier, as your mindset shifts to positive thoughts about the change you’re living in.
As a result, you’re creating a new practice.
Will you leave me your thoughts?
I’d really love to hear them.
With love and blessings,