Connections. How easy is it for you to connect with others?
For some people it’s easy and comes naturally. For others, it’s something they need to concentrate on.
For me, as my parents say, I was born connecting with people. My mom tells a story of when I was a toddler, we were in a store and I wandered off. She found me talking to some adults. (The photo shown is me as a toddler!)
I remember times as a child not having any fear out in public and simply walking up to people to talk with them. To this day, I really enjoy meeting new people and beginning a conversation with them.
What makes each of us so different? Is it genetics? I think that’s a part of it. My dad, Homer, is this same way to this day as I’m describing. I always think I’m a friendly person and then when I see my dad in action, he has it way over me!
My friend Margie, that just passed away on her 60th birthday was the same exact way. She was always reaching out to everyone, every place she would go!
My son Adam was in this category as a child as well. Where my daughter would cling to my side out in public.
For all of us, whether connecting is easy or it’s something you need to think about and make a conscious effort to do, I know it’s something that will enhance your life, the more you do it.
When you take yourself out of the equation, and think about that other person in front of you, giving a smile, a kind word to them or beginning a short conversation, it always feels so good when you walk away.
Now, not everyone wants to have a conversation with a stranger or anyone else for that matter at certain times. It’s about tuning in and paying attention to what vibe a person is giving off. When you tune in, you will learn to trust your intuition as to how much at any given time to offer to that person.
Like yesterday, I was in a store and the check out girl clearly was having a rough day. I asked her how she was. She answered, “I’m just doing.” I simply said to her to acknowledge her, “Yeah some days are like that.” No story was needed. Just simply an acknowledgement she was there and I cared. Her energy did lighten up a bit.
I also love to connect people to each other. When I meet various people who tell me about themselves or their business, I think about someone who might just be that someone, that could help them or add to what they’re doing. Or maybe they may end up collaborating together.
This gives me a sense of happiness to be able to do this. Then I may do an email introduction to both of the people and let them take it from there. Or I may offer a phone number if it’s appropriate.
My upcoming Kauai Spiritual Retreat participants came from connections. I suspect if you have a business, a good portion of your business came from connections, am I right?
Building relationships is key in this world to live a life you love and to grow a successful business.
Come and grow some amazing relationships and create life-long connections at my upcoming Kauai Retreat! Check it out and contact me if you have interest or you know someone you can pass this info a long to:
Leave me a comment below about how you connect with others!
Blessings to you,
Connie
Elda says
Several years ago I took the Strength Finders Test. I found my number one strength to be ‘Connectedness’. My number two strength is ‘Empathy’.
At the time, I was disappointed because other people’s results were ‘Strategic’ or ‘Innovative’ or what seemed to me more interesting ones. Now, I am happy to say that I am PROUD of my strengths.
When I am in a store and the cashier seems to be having a bad day, I look for something to compliment them on, like maybe their pretty nails. It always seems to get them to start talking and cheer them up even if it is just for the moment they are with me.
Excellent post, Connie!
conniehertz says
Thank you Elda for your comments! You are one of the best connectors I know of!
I’m so happy to call you my friend!~