Allow your feelings to come.
Therefore, as the meme says above, “our feelings are just visitors, let them come and go.”
Sometimes easier said than done, right?
“Experiencing your emotions and being vulnerable with the people that you trust is a sign of true strength, not a weakness.
Ultimately, the way to heal and move through painful experiences is to let yourself feel.
You can do this by writing in a journal, through artwork, talking to a friend, or seeking help from a therapist—there are so many healthy ways to process your emotions.
Of course there are times (i.e. if you are at work or school) when it is not always feasible to process your feelings in the moment, which is when you can employ healthy distraction or coping strategies.
Later, it is still important to process your feelings when you are in a better place to do so.
Ultimately, you deserve to let yourself experience all of your emotions, and to treat yourself with kindness.”
First of all, since kindness is mentioned above, it’s a great place to start when you allow your feelings.
Above all, be kind to yourself. Of course, with others too.
Since grieving is filled with many different stages, it may take awhile to move to the other side of it.
Anger and sadness are tricky too.
I will include the Emotional Scale once again at the bottom. It helps me as a reminder, to move up the scale as soon as I’m able.
Then I can get over to the left side of the scale where the vibrations of these emotions are much higher. Propelling me/you, to live in a more positive place, more often.
For instance, I’ve spoken about appreciation being a doorway to move up the scale and to the left side.
When I consciously allow myself to think about what I appreciate, my emotions are shifted, at least for that moment.
As a result of showing others an exercise to time themselves for just a minute or two, writing down what they appreciate, they report their feelings are shifted.
If even slightly, to a higher, more positive place.
Furthermore, it’s sometimes hard to remember, you don’t need to stay stuck inside of the lower vibration emotions.
Especially as sadness seems to wash over you.
Another thing that helps me, is taking time to breathe. Take deep breaths consciously and take time for quiet alone.
Because I’ve been practicing different forms of meditation now since 1974, my go to is doing this most afternoons.
My energy lifts as do my feelings, after a guided meditation.
Simply download a meditation app onto your smart phone. Then it’s there for you to listen to, wherever you are.
Ocean waves, raindrops, flute and piano music, are just a few of the things that help relax people.
Lastly, be patient with yourself as you’re going through a time when things feel uncomfortable.
As the quote says above, being vulnerable with someone you trust, may help when you’re ready, as well.
Slow down and be gentle with yourself.
With love and kindness,
Connie
PS. Here is a link to read more about this topic. I took the comments in quotations above from this site:
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