Your behavior, thoughts and mindset are my topic today.
Because I have written these articles for over 13 years, I pay more attention to myself, thoughts and behaviors.
Since I’m always looking for topics to share, they begin with my being aware of people and things.
As the meme above says, “Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does”.
Lately, I’ve been aware of my irritation toward a couple people.
For an example, a woman in my beloved Friday outdoor aqua class is someone I have felt irritated with since I started attending over 10 years ago.
During my first outdoor aqua class, she knew I was just beginning and began, in my interpretation, “bossing me around and telling me what I was doing wrong”.
Now, like most people, I don’t take well to this kind of behavior.
After a few things she said to me, I responded with something like, “Stop telling me what to do! I’m doing the best I can and I don’t like you treating me like this!”
I guess if I were in a better place at the time, my behavior could have been more kind and direct. Instead, I came across as angry and not kind at all.
Which actually is what I was feeling toward her.
So, began a ten year long “staying clear of each other” when we were both at this class. I found I was relieved whenever she wasn’t there.
Yesterday, my behavior wasn’t outwardly unkind, as she bossed the entire class saying, “Be quiet everyone, the instructor is talking!” Only, my thoughts were.
Hence, my reason for this article today.
Comparatively, as I look back at my almost 71 years on this planet, beginning in 1974 with my first personal growth class, I know what a negative mindset and behaviors do to you.
Yes, I’ve done things over my years that hurt others. and I am eternally sorry to all I hurt by my choices and actions.
Consequently, when I do notice myself having the thoughts and behaviors I described with this woman, I’m not proud of myself.
Basically, when I write these articles, many of them help me process inside of me. And sharing them, takes it steps further.
Maybe I’m helping another or some that need to hear what I’m sharing.
Our mindset must be looked at as we go along our journey called life and adjusted accordingly.
My choice is to make necessary adjustments to help me continue to become more of the person I want to be.
Additionally, I’m choosing to use prayer and also using another tool I’ve learned over the years.
Which is picturing white light around this woman or anyone else I have negative feelings for.
In her case, I’ll add in soft pink light going between her and me. Soft pink light I’ve learned is for forgiveness.
You see, I have many beliefs that serve me, only if my behavior doesn’t match, what good are they?
Lastly, if you have any other suggestions that have worked with you when you’ve dealt with someone who irritated you, please write back and share with me.
With love and appreciation,
Connie
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