By Louise Griffith
The dictionary defines verbalization as “expressing oneself in words”. Have you ever felt stuck when you wanted to speak up because you felt bashful, intimidated or nervous about a possible reaction?
When you speak up, energy starts moving and aids in the process of getting unstuck. I have learned that if I pause before speaking and focus on my intention, it can make a big difference.
Here is what I encourage you to consider before you speak: Are you sharing your thoughts and feelings to be heard, to be understood by another, or to express your wants and needs? Are you intending to do harm to another or are you simply wanting to honor how you are feeling and what you are thinking? There is a big difference in energy and impact when you speak with clear intention.
Mutual respect is a foundational piece for trust in caring relationships. There can be different levels of sharing depending upon the level of intimacy and history in the relationship. This takes time.
A friend of mine came to visit me recently. We are both going through significant transitions in our lives. In our relationship we listen carefully and often ask permission to give feedback. We hold a mirror up for each other, giving possible different perspectives and ways of looking at a situation or a person. We made a commitment to be authentic and always hold the best interest of each other in our hearts.
This did not just happen. Our relationship has been evolving for many years. We have come to the point where we can even laugh at ourselves now and again! That helps! To share one’s truth with another human being without judging or feeling judged is a beautiful gift we can give to one another.
I have learned that asking for what you need or want in the form of a request can facilitate clarity in your communication. It helps with boundaries. As an example, “My request is that you simply listen to me” or “My request is that you listen to me and give me some feedback when I have finished speaking.” It also helps the other person to know what is expected and hoped for from them.
Decide that you are “worth it”, whatever your “it” may be. What you think and how you feel is important. It is a choice and decision that only you can make. You have great wisdom within. If you don’t honor your own soul, who will?
The time is now to step into the light of who you are. You have much to contribute to others. Be proud of who you are and what you know. Speak your truth. Trust you will know what to do next. You are wise. You count. You make a difference.
Louise Griffith, an internationally recognized speaker and certified 6 Advisors/ Success Coach is known for shining a light on life’s possibilities. Currently she holds the position of membership director on the NSA- MN board. Louise is a psychologist who has a private practice in the Twin Cities area:
Phone: – 952-484-3100.